springs
July 28, 2008We are springs. Everything that knocks us down is a chance to jump up
even higher. Every loss is a chance to show that we can bounce back
and try even harder.
Every fall is a chance to get back up and show that we won’t be
kept down.
Nobody and nothing can defeat us. The only person who can defeat you
is you. If you give up, you are defeated. If you persevere, you win.
It really doesn’t matter
what they throw at you, you are a spring and you can bounce back.
Whatever happens, keep going. If you keep bouncing back, you win!
blame
The kids are finally getting the message. Daddy says, “Blame is a
waste of time” they keep repeating to each other. Hopefully if they
repeat it to each other enough, they will take the message to heart
themselves.
It seems to be a human trait that we need to find explanations for
everything that happens. And so it stands to reason that we need to
find blame for everything bad that happens. But things don’t always
happen because someone wills them to, there is not always a guilty
party and we don’t need to blame people.
There is a place for blame – when a person responsible for
something needs to make amends or be prevented from repeating his
crime. But most blame is petty and totally unnecessary and harms the
blamer more than the person we blame. And that is what blame is a
waste of time.
P.S. I really have no recollection of saying “blame is a waste of
time” to my kids, but who am I to rain on their parade?
success
Success or happiness? Happiness or success?
Sometimes there are tough choices to make, but sometimes it’s just
a matter of understanding what a few simple words mean. Consider the
choice between happiness and success. Sometimes we mislabel
“success”.
Do you take that job in management and leave the hands-on world you
love so much? Isn’t that a moot point. Would it be a success to move
up into management? If it brings more money and less happiness, is
that a success? Will it bring your family more happiness if you are
unhappy?
If happiness is not success, then just what would qualify as success?
how much should i give?
When you give, remember to keep a balance. I know I had a tendency to
give and give, until I had nothing left for myself–time, energy,
even resources.
And when I was in this depleted state–I was not vibrating abundance!
When you give, find your comfort level. If you pay attention to
your emotions, you will find the place where you are giving with
a knowledge of your abundance. You will feel the joy of giving,
but still feel like you take very good care of yourself as well.
If you are trying to give so much that you feel uncomfortable–
listen to your feelings. Do some tapping to make sure you
aren’t acting simply out of fear. When your emotions are
clear, you will know how to tell when you are giving in joy
and gratitude. It FEELS GREAT!
details
Everything looks bigger with a magnifying glass. So when things look
too small, why not take aout a magnifying glass?
This advice might seem obvious for reading the instructions on a
bottle of medication, but what about taking out one’s proverbial
magnifying glass when one’s world feels too small or one’s circle
of friends seems to small or somehow one’s luck seems too small.
Instead of focusing on the quantity, focus on the details.
This is my room, and it really is a marvelous place.
I have just two friends, but look what good friends they are.
Not much good seems to be coming my way of late, but look at these
two things that did happen. Wow! Those were great.
With a magnifying glass, everything seems bigger because we can see
all the beautiful details in their splendid glory.
yellow
I am not saying yellow is my favorite color, but it is the official
color of happiness. That’s because somewhere along the line we
adopted yellow as the color of those smiley faces that symbolize
happiness.
Yellow is also the color of the sun, bringing brightness and joy into
our world. It is a warm color and rooms painted in yellow are
generally happy rooms. And yellow clothes seem to bring out a certain
joy and energy in people.
Yellow is the color we most often use to highlight the good parts of
a document, the parts we want to review again.
Let’s hear it for yellow, a truly happy color.
sometimes…
July 19, 2008Sometimes you will only see what’s wrong in your life when someone better comes along to make you realize what you’ve been missing…
eyes… heart…
You can close your eyes from the things you don’t want to see…
But you can never close your heart from the things you don’t want to feel…
giving up… letting go…
When giving up becomes less painful than holding on,
Then, that’s the time to let go…
Jealousy
July 7, 2008Whoever said the cause of jealousy made any sense? After all, it’s got green eyes…. it’s awful…. it can be hurtful….
Certainly not the people who live in mansions, drive nice cars, and have people called “Wallingsworth” working for them.
Certainly not the people who are physically fit without lifting a weight, eat anything they want, and never age a day.
And the list goes on….
Whoever said life was fair? Look back at that whole Cain and Abel incident in the Bible. Talk about taking the issue to extremes….. What was the real cause of jealousy in Cain?
Webster defines jealousy as: intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness, disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness, hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage, vigilant in guarding a possession. Does that describe at least half the world or what??
So……how does your thinking get so messed up? How does this negative, destructive stuff get started?
It starts when:
- You determine your self worth based on your possessions, status, or looks.
- You feel “entitled” because of something that’s happened to you somewhere along the way.
- You have feelings of insecurity or low self esteem.
Here is a FREE self esteem test that will show you if your jealousy issues are tangled up in your self esteem.
The bottom line? You want the best of the best and you want someone else to give it to you. Oh, and by the way, you don’t want to feel any discomfort, inconvenience, or pain to get it.
But there is some good news! Once you recognize what’s happening, there’s hope. You can’t completely eliminate the cause of jealousy, but there are some things that can help control it.
And the Answer Is…………
1. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. God’s plan for you is completely different than His plan for someone else. You may be “in training” for something God has in mind for you. But as long as you waste your time comparing yourself to others, you’ll never move forward.
2. Know that where you are is where you need to be. As long as you remain focused and upset about where you’re not, God won’t put you anywhere else.
3. Start focusing your time on what you can do for other people. When the revelation finally hits you……..”it’s not about me”, you’ll finally be released from all that negative junk that pulls you down. Spend your time being a blessing to other people and God will take care of everything else.
4. Overcoming jealousy gets much easier when you realize that God has an amazing plan for your life. Pursuing that plan takes your focus off other people and onto God’s best for your life.
5. Take the time to learn. See how others have not only discovered the cause of jealousy in their lives, but have overcome it. There is no reason to have to learn everything on your own. There’s alot of help out there.
