He doesn’t love you enough…
March 28, 2007forwarded mail… (author unknown)
During what women believe to be the start of a budding romance, certainty about where the relationship is going is never questioned. To us, it's in the bag without necessarily saying this out loud.He calls,he tells me he misses me, asks me out often, is relentlessly sweet and thoughtful. I am always on cloud nine and apologetically unable to wipe the grin off my face.I am in love with him and although he hasn't said so yet, I am sure he loves me too.
Herein lies the tragedy. Until a man asks you to be his girlfriend,you are not on safe ground. No matter how few the minutes are between his text messages or his phone calls,even if he has tried to hold your hand, carefully pick off the eyelash from under your eye,and wipe the crumb perched on your upper lip, assume that he just wants to be friends. Assume otherwise and you'll be in for great big heartbreak. Men are almost formulaic especially those who have remained single after 25. When faced with the same given in the same situation, no matter where they come from, they will all do the same thing.
Enter the questions women love to ask:
1. Why hasn't he called me in the past few days;
2. If he likes being me with so much, why doesn't he leave his girlfriend/wife for me?
As much as we would like to fall back into thinking men are idiots and need a little shove off into the right direction, it's better to keep your hands where they are. Do not text, call or make a bigger fool of yourself. There s just one answer to all the questions: He doesn't love you enough. Let's take each situation one at a time. He hasn't called you in the past few days. Women will immediately assume that there s something wrong. His cellphone is off, he is sick, he got into an accident, he's upset with me, etc. We say to ourselves, It's okay for me to text him, at least he'll think that I care about him and that I'm thoughtful. Plus once lang naman to eh. After this I'll never initiate texting. More brazen women could come right out at the guy and ask, Why haven't you called me? Whenever my women friends tell me they did this, I visibly cringe and have to stop myself from hitting them on the head. You see, a man's initial feelings for a woman are not usually carved in stone. How he feels about you is very much like writing on the sand. You have to be careful so that he won't change his mind about you. My guy friends who confide in me (voluntarily) have the same facial statement when they tell me about the girl who asked them the question,Why haven't you called me? They look like they have the heebie-jeebies. They freak out and start complaining about this. They haven't called you because they don t feel like it. They might feel like it later but at the moment they don't so they won't. They are aware that you exist and don't need you to remind them about it. Do you want that? I don't think so. They also tell me that men are entitled to change their mind the way women do. They are also flaky and not sure all the time.
Sometimes men are looking for icing on the cake in the form of a woman friend who plugs in all the gaps that his better half cannot fill. She is usually somebody with slightly different qualities than his mate. He enjoys being with her, calls her all the time, consults with her about life-altering decisions but does not really come out and make a decision about who he wants to be with simply because he is in a safe place. He has the best of both worlds and doesn't need to make a choice. If he hasn't left his girlfriend for you yet, chances are, he won't. She is still his priority. When she calls and asks him to pick her up,he hurriedly finishes his meal and tells you he has to go. When you ask him out on days when he has to take her home, he'll say he can't. You notice that you are only together when his schedule permits it and when seeing you does not conflict with his time with his girlfriend. You get the crumbs. This kind of arrangement only tells you that he doesn't love you enough for him to forsake his girlfriend for you. If he takes a chance by leaving her for you, you're sure that he loves you. Most men would stay with the safe, the tried and tested over risking everything.
Obviously, you don't want to be second best. Find someone who will make you his only priority. Although they pretend and seem otherwise, men are not idiots when it comes to matters of the heart.They know fully well what they want out of the relationship. They do not need to be rescued by you. They don't need hints, carefully crafted text messages or highway billboards that promise them a bed of roses with you. If he really likes you, he will do anything to get you to like him back. You just have to sit there and wait for your nails to dry. Trust me. I can get enough signatures from the creeps to validate this.
the one that got away…
March 27, 2007In your life, you'll make note of a lot of
people. Ones with whom you shared something
special, ones who will always mean something.
There's the one you first kissed, the one you
first loved, the one you lost your virginity to,
the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're
with…and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that
person with who everything was great, everything
was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person, there was no
flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't
fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with
someone, finding a longtime partner that is,
does not lie merely in the other person. I can
actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even
the greater part, has to do with the matter of
timing. It has to do with you being ready to
settle down and commit to someon e in a way that
goes beyond the little niceties of giddy
romance.
How often have you gone through it without even
realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in
that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're
with, it just doesn't work. Small problems
become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers
simply because you're not ready and it shows.
It's not that you and the person you're with are
no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and
little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you're ready. You really are. And
when this happens you'll be ready to settle down
with someone. He or she may not be the most
perfect,they might not be the brightest star of
romance to ever have burned in your life, but
it'll work because you're ready. It'll work
because it's the right time and you'll make it
work. And it'll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you're finally makin g
sense of things, and you find yourself to be a
different person. Things are different, your
approach is different, you finally understand
who you are and what you want, and you've become
ready because the time has truly arrived. And
mind you, there's no telling when this day will
come.
Hopefully you're single but you could be in a
long-term relationship, you could be married
with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know
is that you've changed, and for some reason,
the one that got away, is the first person you
think about.
You'll think about them because you'll
wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll
wonder, "What if we were together now, with me
as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one
that got away is. The biggest "What if?"
you'll have in your life.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who's
already married. In which case it's the same
thing. You just have to accept and know that
your memories of that person will probably bring
a nice little smile to your lips in the future
when you're old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it's
different. What do you do if it's not yet too
late? Simple…find him, find her. Because the
very existence of a "one that got away" means
that you'll always wonder, what if
you got that one?
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it
won't make a difference. If the timing is
finally right, it'll all just fall into place
somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be
a great feeling, in the end, to be able to
say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that
almost got away."
music and lyrics
March 21, 2007"A melody is like seeing someone for the first time, the physical attraction, the sex.
But then, as you get to know the person, that's the lyrics, their story, who they are underneath.
It's the combination of the two that makes it magic."
- Sophie Fisher, (Music and Lyrics)
i need inspiration, not just another negotiation…
Way back into love (Music and Lyrics)
I’ve been living with a shadow overhead
I’ve been sleeping with a cloud above my bed
I’ve been lonely for so long
Trapped in the past, I just can’t seem to move on
I’ve been hiding all my hopes and dreams away
Just in case I ever need em again someday
I’ve been setting aside time
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind
All I want to do is find a way back into love
I can’t make it through without a way back into love
Oh oh oh
I’ve been watching but the stars refuse to shine
I’ve been searching but I just don’t see the signs
I know that it’s out there
There’s got to be something for my soul somewhere
I’ve been looking for someone to shed some light
Not just somebody just to get me throught the night
I could use some direction
And I’m open to your suggestions
All I want to do is find a way back into love
I can’t make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart again
I guess I’m hoping you’ll be there for me in the end
There are moments when I don’t know if it’s real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation
All I want to do is find a way back into love
I can’t make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart to you
I’m hoping you’ll show me what to do
And if you help me to start again
You know that I’ll be there for you in the end
in my life…
March 18, 2007
There are places I remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some for ever, not for better
And some have gone, and some remained
All these places had there moments
With lovers and friends that I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life, I loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
Still no one, compares with you
And these memories loose their meaning,
When I think of love as something new
No I will never, ever loose affection
For people and things that went before
I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life, I loved you more
I know I’ll never ever loose affection
For people and things that went before
I’ll often stop to think about them
In my life, I loved you more
In my life, I loved you more
just friends…
He was never my boyfriend, but I miss his hugs, his smiles, his advice, his love, his kindness, the times we cried together, and the times we laughed together. I guess I fell in love with our friendship…
guys…
March 14, 2007The only guys worth loving are the ones that will take time just to be with you.
please…
Don't be so sweet, don't be a darling
Don't smile at me, try not be charming
Don't talk to me, don't call my name
Don't play with me, I hate the game.
Don't be sad, I might miss you
Don't be too caring, I might like you
Don't be too sweet, I might fall for you
It's hard for me to love you
When you won't love me after all… 
to you… who could break my heart…
Never say "I LOVE YOU" if you don't care
Never talk about "FEELINGS" if they are not really there
Never touch a "LIFE" if you mean to break a "HEART"!
life… sucks!
"You can be with a person and be happy with them and not love them. And you can love somebody and not want to be with them. You don't need to love someone to want them. Now that's frustrating, when what your brain tells you you want and what you actually want don't match up. It’s exhausting. And, well, it’s complicated. But that's life. And life… sucks."
-Grey's Anatomy
another u
a song by Cascada
(introduced by a beloved special friend)
So many times I was alone I couldn’t sleep
You left me drowning in the tears of memory
And ever since you’ve gone, I found it hard to breathe
Cause there was so much that your heart just couldn’t see
A thousand wasted dreams rolling off my eyes
But time’s been healing me and I say goodbye
Cause I can breathe again, dream again
I’ll be on the road again
Like it used to be the other day
Now I feel free again, so innocent
Cause someone makes me whole again for sure
I’ll find another you
Could you imagine someone else is by my side
I’ve been afraid he couldn’t keep myself from falling
My heart was always searching for a place to hide
Could not await the dawn to bring another day
You’re not the only one so hear me when I say
The thoughts of you that just fade away
Cause I can breathe again, dream again
I’ll be on the road again
Like it used to be the other day
Now I feel free again, so innocent
Cause someone makes me whole again for sure
I’ll find another you
Sometimes I see you when I close my eyes
You’re still a part of my life
But I can breathe again, dream again
I’ll be on the road again
Like it used to be the other day
Now I feel free again, so innocent
Cause someone makes me whole again for sure
I’ll find another you
I’ll find another you
science and people
March 13, 2007Since light travels faster than sound, people appear bright until you hear them speak.
